MEMORIES OF JERRY SELF
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Jerry's parents have asked me to express their gratitude for the many tributes that people have put on this web site and their thanks to Chris Mycoskie for setting it up and keeping it updated. In a time more difficult than many of us could ever imagine, it has given them strength. Jerry touched many lives while he was with us. We see that he also
touched many in his passing.  As parents we know our children are special.  This tribute has helped his parents realize that they were not the only ones who thought Jerry was special.
I cannot leave this web site without addressing the issue that came up the weekend of December 4 & 5.  No one who knew Jerry believes it is true.  Jerry was high on Jesus and high on life.  Sadly, there are many out there who did not know him. They won't realize that Jerry would not jeopardize his position on bonfire, would not disappoint those depending on him.  This was so important to Jerry, he loved working on bonfire.  It embodied so many of the things that Jerry embraced; hard work, loyalty, team work,
camaraderie.  I did not know the other young man, Jeremy Frampton, who was also accused of being intoxicated. I know his parents are as heartbroken as Mike and Jacki. Please continue to support all of these precious families with your prayers.
-Debbie Riley, Byrsagent@aol.com
This was written by a 13 year old boy named Ben who died in 1997 from a brain tumor.  He gave this to his mom just before he died.

My First Christmas in Heaven

I see the countless Christmas trees
Around the world below
With the tiny lights, like Heaven's stars,
Reflecting on the snow.

The sight is so spectacular,
Please wipe away that tear
For I am spending Christmas with
Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs
That people love so dear
But the sounds of music can't compare
With the christmas choir up here.

I have no words to tell you,
The joys their voices bring,
For it is beyond description,
To hear the angels sing.

I know how much you miss me,
I see the pain in your heart.
But I am not far away
We really aren't apart.

So be happy for me, dear ones.
You know I hold you dear.
And be glad I'm spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year.

I sent you each a special gift.
From my heavenly home above.
I sent you each a memory
Of my undying love.

After all, love is a gift
More precious than pure gold.
It was always most important
In the stories Jesus told.

Please love and keep each other,
As my Father said to do.
For I can't count the blessings and love
He has for each of you.

So have a Merry Christmas and
Wipe away that tear.
Remember, I am spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year.

May God be with each and every person touched by this tragedy.

-Jodi Cotner, jr.cotner@baylordallas.edu
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Self,

I justed wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for your loss.  Mr. Self, I did want to send you a personal thank you.  Even in your time of grief and loss you so
wonderfully spoke of your son to the Dallas Morning News.  In this time of loss so many of us (Aggie Family Members) were also suffering grief.  Although my grief
come not come close to yours, I want to thank you for the wonderful words you gave.  It helped to ease my sorrow seeing how proud you were to receive your son's
senior boots.  Only true members of the Aggie Spirit can ever understand your pride in your son and his achievements.

Once again I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my father 10 years ago and may have a small understanding of your grief.  The only thing I can say to comfort you at
this time is that in time the pain and suffering you and your family is experiencing will recede in time.  After the passing of the pain, you will only have wonderful
memories of such a beloved member of your family.  It helps to know that even though our loved ones are gone and still needed, they will always be in your hearts
and minds.

Sincerely,
-Celeste M. Simmons (A&M '84, '89), celeste@web-access.net
My wife and I are both '95 grads, and will keep your family in our prayers at our Thanksgiving prayer today, God Bless.
-Rick & Kelly Thill, TWOAGSINFL@aol.com
My heart goes out to you.  My prayers are with you. No one can say that they know how it feels unless they went through this type of tragedy. I have children around your son age. Just try to remember the good qualities that he had and the joy he gave to the family and friends.  God be with you.
-Mary Ann Kleinfleter, Lebanon, PA, klein47@nbn.net
I met Jerry in September of '99 at Freebirds.  Even though that was my first and last encounter with him, my memory of this incredibly amazing man is vivid.  When I was told of his death, all I could envision was a guy who had such a kind heart and sweet spirit.  I knew that from the first moment we spoke.  I could see from the look in his eyes and the way he carried himself that he was in love with Jesus.  I'm so sad that I will never
have the chance to know him on a deeper and more personal level.  However, I feel blessed
that God allowed me to at least meet him.
To Jerry:  I know you are at home with our heavenly father.  I pray that all who knew you will find comfort in that.  Thank you for the fifteen minutes we talked on that Tuesday night.  You have forever made a dramatic impact on my life.
-Summer Smith, TiqiLee@aol.com
The Aggies that disappeared in the Bonfire held the spirit that binds all Aggies.  The following poem I wrote after the Vietnam War applies to them as well.

ONCE WE WERE YOUNG AND AGGIES
W. L. Kirkpatrick

Once we were young and Aggies
Full of spirit and will to learn,
Dedicated to belief in God and Country.
Determined to make our way in life
Through the military and light of knowledge.

We were taught the history
And traditions of dear TAMU
During Fish Week by stern upperclassmen.
Life was hard to suffer the training
Becoming cadets and soldiers long ago.

We worked from early morn to late night
To get what we dreamed
Soldiers with the light of wisdom,
Honorable men to serve Texas and country.

We practiced drill and ceremonies each morning
That brought pride and brotherhood to young men.
The mighty music of the fightin Texas Aggie band
Thrilled the skies and
Raised the Corps to one lofty spirit.
We sought to learn noble military ways
For some awful moment to resolve
A great issue which our Nation should choose.

Where yell practices and athletic games
Taught us that life was competition.
Played in the games of life that
Must be won for the spirit of humankind.
Flaming souls drove us forward to
Tasks of real life of higher endeavor.

We learned that each had been given
By destiny and God, distinct abilities and qualities,
To be used to benefit people and
Preserve liberty, security and peace
In our American homeland.

Our lives were perfect in short measure
Surrounded by knowledge and brotherhood
Of those fellow cadets living and dead
Whose ideals, hopes and aspirations
Were passed on, and shared by scholars and professors.

We found confidence in our cause
Thanking God in our final breath for TAMU , and
The American homeland as the mortal mist
Drew about us in war times gone by,  with
Consciousness fading and softly echoing
...there's a spirit can ne'er be told...
...there's a spirit can ne'er be told...
In lands far away, to a greater roll call with
Heaven's applause to everlasting sleep.

We Aggies shall live
Through the years eternal life,
By those whose hearts and minds
Throb the pulse of one exalted fraternity.
The brotherhood of devotion, tradition and enlightenment
Taught us so long ago in our beloved Aggieland.

Gigem!

-W. L. Kirkpatrick (A&M '63), WKIRKPATRICK@compuserve.com
Hi.  My name is Marcella Martinez, and I am from Laredo, Texas.
I guess I can start off by saying that I never knew Jerry Self, and he didn't know me.  In fact, I'm not even a student at Texas A&M University.  Jerry Self and I have never crossed paths.  That having been said, I would like to extend my deepest sympathies to the family and friends of Jerry Self.  I am transferring to Texas A&M University next semester.  Even though I am not an Aggie yet, I am filled with the Aggie Spirit and Traditions.  It is because of this that I mourn the loss of Jerry Self and the 11 other students who passed along with him.  I consider myself a fellow Aggie.  I, too, and grief stricken.
Last night, a memorial service was held at one of our local churches in honor of Jerry Self and the 11 others.  Although no one from our home town was involved in the accident, our entire community is mourning.  There was not a dry eye in the entire church.
Even though we don't know each other, and our paths have never crossed, we are united under God's family.  It is for this that I grieve along with you.
To the family and friends of Jerry Self: My heart-felt sympathies and prayers go out to you.  I can only  pray this tragedy can strengthen your family.  Jerry Self will never be forgotten, for he paid the ultimate price in the name of School Spirit.
The City of Laredo is with you during your time of grief.
Once again, my deepest sympathies and heart-felt prayers go out to you and your family.  May Jerry's memory stay alive in your hearts forever.  God Bless.
With deepest sympathies,
-Marcella A. Martinez, Texas A&M International University, mm064866@tamiu.edu
To the friends and family of Jerry Self,
At this sad time, I question whether there are any words appropriate for a tribute that would measure up to what Jerry deseves. Herman Melville wrote, "We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and along these fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back as effects." In some way, we all share a part of each other's heart and soul. When I saw Jerry's face on the news and I found out he was gone, I felt like apart of me was gone too. As all of these letters will tell you, Jerry's smile stands out in all of our minds. I hope you can find some comfort in remembering him the way I do, as a smiling, sweet, and funny guy. He is missed.
-Amy Hutchison Philo (LHS '96), amyphilo@yahoo.com
Jerry,  Today is your 21st birthday.  You have been telling (not asking)me all year that we has to dalay our Las Vegas trip from October to December so you could make the trip with us.  If only I had the chance to take you now!  I have tried to help in any way financially or physically possible to insure that you and Michael had anything you wanted.  Was never able to say 'no' to either of you. We had fun shopping for your graduation vehicle. When you saw that maroon pick-up there was no changing your mind.
Actually, you were always a bit of a con-artist.  Even when you were a baby and I scolded you for misbehaving you would put your arms around me, say 'I love you Memaw' and I melted.  Lately I have wished for the times when you and Michael were 3 & 5 or 5 & 7 - when you thought I was the greatest Memaw in the world.  You have both spent less and less time around family since high school.  I tried to get used to the fact that you are both grown young men starting lives of your own - but I envied your school buddies and church friends the time you spent with them.
Thought I knew you pretty well, but from the letters Mike and Jacki have received and from the tributes on this web page, I realize that there were lots of great things you were involved in that I knew nothing about.  You have impacted the lives of your rather large extended family, your church, your high shcool friends and your great Corps group at A & M in a very positive and loving way.  I am pleased that others recognize what a great young man you were.
Michael left this AM for Ft. Leavenworth.  It was a blessing that he was home on leave to help us through the past few weeks.  Your parents did a great job of raising the two of you.
Great Grandmother,  Annie Pearl, said she always prayed she would not outlive her children, never realizing that she would outlive a great-grandchild.  She loved you dearly.
Jimmie died this morning.  Know you were there to welcome him.
I love you, Angel.
-Memaw Barbara, BMillerFowler1700@compuserve.com

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